Change is good…

… and other annoying cliches I take issue with.

To say that my fiftieth year has brought about changes in my life would be an under-statement of laughable proportions. About a year ago I formulated a wild list of goals to complete before the big 5-0 date. I’m still making progress on it, but I didn’t factor in some of the variables. Some of the items don’t really mean the same to me now. Some things happened that made a few goals much more important. So I’m being flexible and open-minded.

Which all sounds reasonable except the dichotomy of being flexible and fifty is adorably NOT reasonable.

I suppose most of us have complained about change being decidedly unwelcome at times in our lives. Books like “Who Moved My Cheese?” deal specifically with our innate aversion to change.

I once had a friend who told me I wasn’t satisfied with changing one thing, but that I had to “blow up the whole damn picture.” (I’m sure it was a compliment, but I won’t over-think that.) I admit that when I embark on a new adventure — a move, a new business, a family — I tend to go big. Whole damn picture big.

Case in point: When I moved back to Colorado, I chose a town where I knew no one but the woman who sold me my house. (Of course, her husband happened to be the mayor so that helped.) Although I had no job or contacts or experience, when I saw a small, empty space available I decided to open an art gallery within 6 weeks. When my biological clock went off, I didn’t get another cat, I adopted a real live baby. Solo.

I hit the mid-century landmark with a bright eye to the future, but maybe less willingness to move my cheese — mainly out of fear I’ll forget where I put it, but that’s another post. My post-gallery job has expanded and evolved in the last year, allowing me to become a stronger writer and a more creative designer. It’s fun and it’s also relaxing. There is stress, but it was rewarded with several press awards earlier this year.

Change brings opportunity. – Nido Qubein

Then I was given a new computer. It’s a PC and I’m a Mac person. Let’s just say the muttered profanity coming out of my office lately is some of my best work.

Change is such hard work. – Billy Crystal

I’m in the first relationship I’ve been in for a dozen years, and it’s awesome! Well, except for the part where he folds towels differently than I do and I have to shave my legs more than three times a year, but I’ll get used to that, right?

In the past year my ‘baby girl’ — who is still in elementary school — shot up four inches, 20 pounds, and has decided to try on the sullen, moody, irrational teenager persona for size. I may be adding ‘collect military school brochures’ to next year’s list of goals.

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. – Maya Angelou

There are numerous other little – and big – changes going on in my life right now and I’d like to know how to pace them, slow them down a little so I can better plan my tantrums in between each one. Maybe there’s a 12-step program for those of us unable (or unwilling) to cope with change. If so, there’s already a perfect quote on hand…

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

What about you? Do you go-with-the-flow when life throws you curves, or cross your arms and pout until it sinks in there’s not a damn thing you can do about it?

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9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Writers Wanted
    Aug 03, 2012 @ 18:01:54

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  2. Alison D.
    Aug 03, 2012 @ 20:12:45

    The AA quote has definitely become a mantra for me as well. It applies to so much more than addiction.

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  3. Heidi Kerr-Schlaefer
    Aug 04, 2012 @ 09:28:37

    I hate change.
    Unless,
    1. I have been able to plan for it for months,
    2. It was entirely my idea, or
    3. It involves getting gobs of money thrown at me, unexpectedly.
    Otherwise, change makes me grumpy, stressed out and otherwise a real bitch.

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  4. dangrdafne
    Aug 10, 2012 @ 13:54:39

    ChaChaChaChaChanges…

    I like to think I handle change well but I really only like dollar bills… tee hee

    Really I think I handle it ok in public but at home I freak out and go crazy(ier). I would rather not change but if I really think about that then I would not be where I am today. If I didn’t start to read a blog that is nowhere near my comfort zone, then I would not have met you. If I didn’t decide to travel more, then i wouldn’t have all the amazing expeirences I have had. Change does a body good – usually. Change is a part of life and really we almost always make it through them, right?

    If there is a particular change you are dreading, just reach out to us and we will be there to help. Listen, hugs, laughter, whatever you need.

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    • suzspetals
      Aug 17, 2012 @ 11:47:13

      All well said, sweets, and thank you for the offer. I always know I have you and my circle for hugs and laughter. 🙂

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  5. Mrs. P
    Aug 19, 2012 @ 22:57:13

    I always dream about big changes and then all the cool outfits I’m going to wear when I receive accolades for all my changes but then all I do is chicken out.
    I applaud you and your bravery as you go out and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. And resistance to change is, well, biological. Otherwise it wouldn’t be an accomplishment worth celebrating, right?

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  6. Nikolina
    Nov 17, 2012 @ 18:26:11

    Posted on incredible, that was a very good read. In coloiusncn, someone who actually thinks and understands what they are blogging about. Quite difficult to find of late, especially on the web . I bookmarked your web blog and will make sure to keep coming back here if this is how you always write. thank you, keep it up! .

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